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OMG. I can so relate! I have an article drafted out similar to you that I haven’t quite hit publish on yet. Of all the women I knew, no one ever talked about how horrific menopause and peri-menopause can be! I was literally researching psych wards to commit myself to it was so bad.

I’m still struggling w the weight - I put on SO much. I don’t get down on myself about the exercise tho - when you are just trying to stay alive, exercise is not a priority. I found plant-based creams and some tinctures that saved me.

Oh - are you past 55 yet? Because the next thing coming that no one talks about is becoming invisible. I think it’s related to the drop in hormones. But my entire life imploded. Upside is that when you get thru it life frickin rocks. I’ve never felt better in my life - even w the extra weight. Thanks for sharing yr story!!

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We're not alone! :-) I am past 55, heading towards 60 this year. My motivation for this piece was to share the experience - I think more women should speak about it - really I so didn't want it to happen because it meant ageing in a culture that admires youth. I grew up in the NY Metro area, it was in some ways superficial.

Yoga really helped me mentally and physically - but more mentally and the nervous system gets activated and helps balance hormones which is a plus. My body isn't going to return physically to where it was and I'm okay with that now - although it was a hard transition. I never took up running again although I sometimes want to. Body shame sometimes rears its ugly head but that is very rare.

I definitely appreciate the upside - the confidence, not being viewed as an object but now a person. For me the invisibility thing hasn't happened in a negative way, only in a positive sense. I've heard from some friends they have had some negative experiences though. - Amy

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